Coach Retreat Spring 2017 Edition – Responsibility Process – Simple Coaching Model & Paper Constellation

The 4th version of Coach Retreat took place on March 25th, 2017. I had the privilege to be part of all the past four of them. It feels like a family, after all, the one that cares for you and you can rely on.

The Spring 2017 edition of Coach Retreat started with the Responsibility Process and Christopher Avery. It was a great talk and a great toolkit to have for any coach. However, as Christopher suggested you don’t want to tell people where they stand on the responsibility process. The value of the responsibility process comes from internalizing it for yourself and applying it. It is not easy to master, and that’s why it is powerful. When you become a master yourself, then it can be taught to others. They have to master themselves, you don’t do them any benefit telling them in which stage they are.

Christopher talking about The Responsibility Process

The Coach Retreat then continued on with two tracks. In one track, I presented “The Simple Coaching Model“. On the other track, Sue, Peter and Omar presented the paper constellation technique for coaching, which I greatly missed. Both of the tracks included hands-on coaching practices.

The Simple Coaching Model in Action

The afternoon was dedicated to coaching practice. We self-organized into triads. In triads, we tried coaching as a Coach, Coachee, and an Observer and switch every 15 minutes. The immense value in the coach retreat came from a very safe environment where we could practice coaching, and be ok with failing and trying new things. It was even more helpful if the coachee brought a non-resolved issue to the coaching conversation.

I don’t forget the first Coach Retreat that I attended. The participants helped me to expand the community I am in, helped me along my path, and I am very thankful to them and the community. After 4 iterations, I get to present at the Coach Retreat. This is the story of a great community that help people within itself grow and promote. I am very much thankful for that.

Some of the favorite moments shared on Twitter, and first and foremost the organizers, big thanks to Mike as, without him, the coach retreat wouldn’t be existing today.

Great day today at #GTACoachRetreat. Thanks @mkaufman811 @ChristopherAver @ItsUnderstood @sheidaei @ocbermudez for putting it together!

— Canbanian (@Ardita_K) March 25, 2017

Thanks to @mkaufman811 for organizing another #GTACoachRetreat Thanks, too, to @Manulife for sponsorship and @rangleio for space

— Sue Johnston (@ItsUnderstood) March 26, 2017

— Mike Kaufman (@mkaufman811) March 25, 2017

Facilitating #PaperConstellation at #GTACoachRetreat. Sooo much fun! Thanks to @ItsUnderstood @akannett for assisting!

— Peter LePiane (@peterlepiane) March 25, 2017

Great questions for simple #coaching model presented by Shahin Sheidaei here at #GTACoachRetreat. #agile #scrummaster #agilecoach

— Daria Bagina (@daria_bagina) March 25, 2017

This is the responsibility process from Christopher Avery and then my notes on his session on the responsibility process.

These are my notes from Christopher Avery’s talk:

A & B personalities (not using Coach, Mentor etc roles), the closest it get was the Helper for one of the roles.

A to stay in one of the steps (this is the challenge)
B (the helper) to help him move out of that stage

JUSTIFY: It’s about the story, it’s about the environment, situation, weather, something external, that’s just they way it is.

When logic doesn’t work, you need to find a way to break the stage. You want to break out of the stages and move up.

Responsibility Scenarios to use: You don’t know the solutions, it’s close. That’s the best way to have a scenario, not only for the responsibility process but also for the coaching scenarios.

Coping States: Comfortable in the problem, an example the meetings that are not necessary to go to, but since our boss asked us, we go.

How to get to the “I don’t want to cope”

Moving back and forth between stages.

SHAME: a private state, especially for men.

OBLIGATION: have to, don’t want to. what has us trapped.

How to break that stage? First, how to apply to ourselves

RESPONSIBILITY: mental state, energy reaches higher, mental state is freedom, choice and power.

Responsibility only works if self-apply

Stages => Islands in the mind

We tend to use responsibility for all the stages (which is wrong and we should be clear if it is responsibility, obligation etc)

QUIT stage: checking out, escape route, for not feeling the SHAME, a way to disengage, a safety mode

In the model:
externalized feelings are RED, society told us not to do them, not to go there, it is bad
internalized feelings are GREEN, they are pseudo-responsibility stages

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